Dear HR Professional,

I believe I work just as hard as him, yet my boss hasn't even mentioned next steps for me. It doesn't seem like we're being judged by the same standards and I hate to sound whiny, but it just feels unfair. What should I do?
Signed,
Feeling Slighted
Dear Feeling Slighted,
It's such a disheartening feeling to know that you werepassed over for a promotion, especially when it feels like there's unfair treatment. The good news: This is an opportunity to have an honest career growth discussion with your manager—one in which you can clarify how your performance will be measured and then set goals for the future.
Here's a simple script you can use to start that conversation:
“Hi [Manager Name], I would love to work together to set some goals for how I can grow and progress in my career. I would really like to [goal] and I’d like your thoughts on what I’ll need to get there. Can we set some time to discuss in our next meeting?”
Before you meet though, make sure you reflect on where you are right now and where you want to go. It's important to think about only you and your performance. This is yourcareer growth conversation, not your co-worker's. As hard as it is, you'll have to remove him from the conversation entirely.
To reflect on your performance, ask yourself the following:
Here's a simple script you can use to start that conversation:
“Hi [Manager Name], I would love to work together to set some goals for how I can grow and progress in my career. I would really like to [goal] and I’d like your thoughts on what I’ll need to get there. Can we set some time to discuss in our next meeting?”
Before you meet though, make sure you reflect on where you are right now and where you want to go. It's important to think about only you and your performance. This is yourcareer growth conversation, not your co-worker's. As hard as it is, you'll have to remove him from the conversation entirely.
To reflect on your performance, ask yourself the following:
• What contributions have you made?
• What are your major accomplishments?
• What areas do you need to improve in?
• Have you grown in those areas?
And to think about the future, ask yourself the following:
• What does your ideal role look like?
• What are your greatest strengths?
• What have you enjoyed working on the most?
• What would you give up, if you could?
From there, you can work backwards and see if there are any skills or experiences you would need first in order to get to where you want to be. In discussing with your manager, he or she should be able to articulate any gaps in performance and areas where you'd need to grow.
I recommend setting goals with your manager that you can track over time (and then actually tracking them together).
Everyone progresses differently and there are multiple factors taken into account when making promotion decisions—not just length of time at a company. So while it seems unfair, there may be clear rationale as to why your co-worker was promoted. Try to avoid assumptions and comparisons with others and instead focus on creating your own plan with your boss.
And if after those frank conversations, you still feel there's unfair treatment, you can always reach out to your internal HR department to share your concerns or think about if this company is the right place to grow your career.
• What are your major accomplishments?
• What areas do you need to improve in?
• Have you grown in those areas?
And to think about the future, ask yourself the following:
• What does your ideal role look like?
• What are your greatest strengths?
• What have you enjoyed working on the most?
• What would you give up, if you could?
From there, you can work backwards and see if there are any skills or experiences you would need first in order to get to where you want to be. In discussing with your manager, he or she should be able to articulate any gaps in performance and areas where you'd need to grow.
I recommend setting goals with your manager that you can track over time (and then actually tracking them together).
Everyone progresses differently and there are multiple factors taken into account when making promotion decisions—not just length of time at a company. So while it seems unfair, there may be clear rationale as to why your co-worker was promoted. Try to avoid assumptions and comparisons with others and instead focus on creating your own plan with your boss.
And if after those frank conversations, you still feel there's unfair treatment, you can always reach out to your internal HR department to share your concerns or think about if this company is the right place to grow your career.
More About Shannon Fitzgerald
As Director of HR at The Muse, Shannon makes sure that the company delivers on being a great workplace for its growing team of Musers, from handling benefits to developing talent management processes. Shannon leverages her experience in benefits and payroll administration, new hire orientation, performance management, employee relations, executive coaching, and training and development to increase transparency and set policies that align with the company’s culture and core values. Before joining The Muse, she built and ran HR at a proprietary trading firm in Chicago (Go-Go White Sox!).
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